MY OLDEST SON ADAM WAS A PASSENGER IN A SERIOUS MOTORCYCLE ACCIDENT ON THE LATE NIGHT OF 8-19-2015. HE HAS A TRAUMATIC BRAIN INJURY. THIS IS OUR STORY OR MAYBE MORE GOD’S STORY IN OUR LIVES.
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And he spake a parable unto them to this end, that men ought always to pray, and not to faint; saying, There was in a city a judge, which feared not God, neither regarded man: and there was a widow in that city; and she came unto him, saying, Avenge me of mine adversary. And he would not for a while: but afterward he said within himself, Though I fear not God, nor regard man; yet because this widow troubleth me, I will avenge her, lest by her continual coming she weary me. Luke 18:1-5
I had to get a new driver’s license not too long before Adam’s accident, probably a year before. My husband looked at the picture on my license yesterday, and wondered out loud how long ago it had been taken — I don’t know if he was kidding, (I didn’t really want to know how bad it is) 🙂
In my heart (and glancing in the mirror), I humbly know the toll these last couple of years have taken on me physically, and I know I have aged more quickly in other ways. But this is not always a bad thing.
The Bible reminds us to ask Him to teach us to ‘number our days’ (Psalm 90:12) so we might gain a heart of wisdom. Looking back, I have had plenty of reminders of how brief (a vapor) this life is — in all seriousness, I hope I am paying attention and I hope you all are taking it to heart too.
A merry heart makes a cheerful countenance, But by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken. Pr 15:12
A merry heart does good, like medicine, But a broken spirit dries the bones. Pr 17:22
We have had laughter, and we have had much sadness. There is no doubt in the past and present sorrows, my spirit and my body has been broken. But a wise King (Solomon), reflected back on his life, his youth, the days that he had wasted, the foolish things of this world he had been distracted by):
Better to go to the house of mourning than to go to the house of feasting, For that is the end of all men; And the living will take it to heart. Sorrow is better than laughter, For by a sad countenance the heart is made better. Ecclesiastes 7:2-3
It seems like my outward appearance has not been made better, but hopefully my heart is. I am prayerfully taking it to heart, and when we look to God in these afflictions, our heart is softened towards others (hopefully).
Jesus comforted His disciples (before His death and resurrection for each and every one of us). He spoke to them of things to come. He loved them and He loved us all so much, that He gave His life to pay the price for our sins. But He said He had the power to take His life back up again. And when He died on the cross for our sins and rose again, He had the victory over sin, death and the grave. For those who have believed upon Him, death holds no more sting for us. He promised He will come back for us, and God does not lie.
A woman, when she is in labor, has sorrow because her hour has come; but as soon as she has given birth to the child, she no longer remembers the anguish, for joy that a human being has been born into the world. Therefore you now have sorrow; but I will see you again and your heart will rejoice, and your joy no one will take from you. John 16:21-22
Today, Adam had his sister and her daughter (his niece) come to visit him and care for him awhile. We spoke on the phone, and he was very cheerful. Who isn’t cheered up by a sweet baby?
Before this all happened, Adam began to grow up, and he learned to demonstrate his love in a more mature way for his sisters and brothers. Also to me. He was very happy when we spoke on the phone, and he told me she was ‘adorable’ and he loved her. And then he spoke to Koby (my youngest), it’s his birthday today. After a few exchanges Adam sang the Happy birthday song to Koby all by himself. (Which Koby wouldn’t let any of us do earlier — embarrassment). Then Adam volunteered, “I love you Koby”. Koby thought he said something else, and responded, but his sister corrected him saying “Adam told you he loved you” — so the birthday boy answered back quickly, “I-love-u-2” 🙂 (I’m sure some of you are familiar with teen boys).
Adam was happy today, and laughing a lot. For those of you during this time who wrongly praise or attribute strength in any way to me, trust me, it’s just the opposite. He helps me and has sent some wonderful helpers and friends. There are many who have surrounded me, and helped me and Adam, and done far more than I have in my trauma.
Last night as many nights, as I pray for Adam and those who surround him, tears still so quickly flood my eyes, and my heart once again feels torn in two. I wonder sometimes if this will lessen. But I do have the knowledge that He is close to me now, and that one day, my heart will rejoice, and it will last forever. For now in this world, where there is sin, poverty, sickness, accidents, hatred of people towards one another (and so much more) — there is sometimes much sorrow. Some of it comes from other’s choices, some from our own, and some from just living in this fallen and decaying world. Hard to comprehend what this world might of been like and will be again. But it was we who rebelled from the one who Created us. The One who desired for us to commune with Him in such a wonderful place that He made for us. Think on what it was to be able to name the animals, to walk among them freely. But because we didn’t believe God and disobeyed in just one thing — because of that, sin entered in, and that sin changed not only us, but the perfect world He created for us. Whether we admit it or not, what we do wrong (in God’s sight – not ours) affects others, and it also catches up with us. We also only partially see how it has affected this earth no matter how brilliant of a scientist one might be, you only partially comprehend.
Fortunately, He is a God of love (1 John 4:8) who in love gave Himself for us (John 15:13). Even though most of mankind don’t acknowledge Him and are not grateful nor thankful to Him — even so, He loves you. Because while we were yet sinners, Jesus demonstrated His love for us by dying for us so we wouldn’t be eternally separated from Him (Rom 5:6-8; John 3:16; 1 Jn 3:16).
I am not righteous (ask anyone who knows me) by the world’s standards, but because I believe on who Jesus is, and what He did for me in my place, He became my righteousness. He stands in front of me declaring me righteous.
The Word of God comforts not only me, but also Adam:
The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears, And delivers them out of all their troubles. The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, And saves such as have a contrite spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, But the Lord delivers him out of them all. Psalms 34:17-19
One day, those who have believed upon Him will be absent from these dying bodies, and present with Him, in new glorified bodies, free from sin and death. For those who have rejected His free offer of eternal life, they face an awful fate. Please, do not wait to put your faith in HIM alone for your salvation from this terrible place. He has done it all, He died for YOU, for YOUR sins, to save YOU. I know there are so many confusing messages out there, seems impossible to even try. I think that people see the ‘religious’ among them with their signs or their bullhorns, or their door to door handouts, nor how many daily masses they attend, or whatever religion we may see and think is good — still none are enough to reach God, and many will lead you down the wrong way. God made a promise in the garden of Eden of a Savior to come. He made the same promise with Abraham, that through he, Isaac and then Jacob would come a Savior who is Jesus Christ the Lord (the Prophets of the OT testified, when, where, how). Jewish friends — please look into the Old Testament Prophecies of the Messiah yourself!
There is only one way to get to God (according to Jesus) and He is it. There is only one truth (again according to Jesus). And there is only way to eternal life (again, according to Jesus). He is either who He said He is, or He is a liar, there is no in between. If He lied once, He is no ‘good man’, not a ‘good prophet’. He is either the great I AM, (God) — the way, the truth and the life, or not. He either was literally and physicallhy risen for the dead or there is no hope for any of us. I believe in who He said He was, and therefore, I do not believe that I will eternally die for my sins, but instead I freely have been given eternal life. So has Adam.
DEAR, DEAR FRIENDS: Thank you for your prayers so much. But for those of you who think they may know Him, or those that don’t. Please read my heartfelt words to you.
There is no work, no religion, no good thing you can offer to have eternal life with God. There is nothing you can give up or stop doing (or promise to stop to doing in the future) to be saved. There is no commitment, no certain formula (or perfectly worded prayer), no ‘doing a 180’ in your life — nor a giving of your life (trust me, none of our lives are any gift worth giving to Him). Please, just believe His Word and not men or most church’s religious statements of what you can do to be saved. Instead, please believe upon the Lord Jesus Christ (who He is and what He did for you) and you SHALL be saved.
If you want to know more, please humbly consider what I wrote here, and feel free to ask me if you want to know something.
Love and prayers in Christ to you ALL. Adam and Holly